When It's All About Her

Are you in a relationship with a woman obsessed with her image?  Is she consumed with her needs to the exclusion of all others?  Do you feel you can do nothing right in her eyes no matter what lengths you go to please her?  Is it…ALL ABOUT HER…all the time?

If so, you may be in a relationship with a Female Narcissist.

“It’s All About Her” will help you understand the personality of a narcissist and why a relationship with someone like this will eventually drain, exhaust and confound you. 

It is hard to avoid the female narcissist in today’s modern culture.  Narcissism is increasing just as fast as rates of obesity in America.  Today’s youth are three times more narcissistic than their predecessors and a large percentage of this increase has been attributed to a greater number of narcissistic women. 

Not surprising when women who display haughty, arrogant, self-indulgent and child-like behavior are rewarded with their own television series (i.e. “The Kardashians” and “The Real Housewives”). Daughters who once would have been disciplined for spoiled conduct are now glamorizing such behavior on television.  Reality TV has produced a generation of young girls who fill their rooms with “Princess” pillows and post “Selfies” of themselves on social media for validation of their self-worth.

Underneath the flashy and intoxicating exterior of a narcissist is a fragile ego, which requires constant attention and validation.  The implications this has on a relationship are far more damaging than one could ever imagine.  Nothing you do is ever good enough to please a narcissist nor is one person capable of satisfying their insatiable need to be adored by many.  Eventually, a narcissist will belittle, criticize, devalue and discard you.

Narcissists are incapable of reciprocating love, which makes healthy relationships with them impossible.  They are exhilarating and fun one moment and emotionally combative the next when they don’t get their way.  While they appear caring in the beginning, eventually you realize, they have simply put on an act in order to win and secure your love. 

Narcissists put on an act for one reason – to seduce and control you.  They seek out relationships only to ensure someone is always present to stroke their delicate ego and cater to their never-ending needs.

A female narcissist has a superior sense of entitlement.  If you want to sustain a relationship with her, you should be prepared to provide beyond what is reasonable.  If you do not, she will be sure to remind you she can easily get this from other men in her life with the snap of her fingers. A female narcissist prides herself on having a large circle of admirers (i.e. supply) available to stroke her ego at all times. 

Knowledge is power and essential when trying to understand the personality of a narcissist. 

This book provides the insight you need to navigate such a toxic relationship, including:

Top 20 FAQs about a Female Narcissist:

1 - Why Do We Fall For Them?

2 - Why Do They Seek Out Relationships?

3 - Why Do They Suddenly Turn Distant, Cold and Cruel?

4 - Why Do They Devalue & Discard Us?           

5 - Why Can’t They Change?                   

6 - Why Is Their Ego So Fragile?

7 - Why Do They Manipulate?                   

8 - Why Can’t It Ever Work?                   

9 - Why Can’t They Love?                   

10 - Why Can’t They Accept Love?               

11 - Why Do They Dread Intimacy?               

12 - Are They All The Same?                   

13 - How Do They Brainwash Us?                   

14 - What Are They Like With Children?           

15 - Do They Miss Us?                       

16 - Why Do They Keep Coming Back?           

17 - Why Is It So Hard For Us To Stay Away?

18 - Why Can’t We Stop Obsessing About Them?

19 - How Can We Take Back Control?

20 - How Do We Break Free and Move On?

This book also offers Six Steps to help you break free and get off the “crazy-train” that a female narcissist creates in order to keep you hooked and forever catering to her needs.

Six Steps on The Path Forward

Step 1 - Understand It

Step 2 – No Contact

Step 3 – Get It Out

Step 4 – Get Real

Step 5 – Wake Up

Step 6 - Heal     

In addition, the book describes numerous characteristics of a female narcissist to help you recognize and avoid such women in the future.  Below are just a handful of examples offered in the book:

5 of 30 Most Common Characteristics of a Female Narcissist

  • Obsessed with her physical appearance and often dresses provocatively
  • Exploits others for her gain regardless of who gets hurt
  • Has an addictive personality
  • Often creates drama for no reason
  • Blames everyone else for her problems

Lastly, and perhaps most helpful, this book offers first-hand personal accounts from numerous men who have fallen for the female narcissist and become ensnared in her trap.  These are real-life stories from men who share their experience of trying to love a narcissist with others on our on-line community of support, which can be found at

Knowing you are NOT alone and hearing from others who understand what you are going through is essential to getting over a narcissist.

Andre’s Story

I wasn’t married to her. I don’t have kids with her. None of that. I should actually consider myself lucky compared to a lot of people here, who were physically abused by their partners, financially stripped down or what have you. I had none of that. All I have left are memories of amazing moments, combined with those where I felt someone was sucking the life out of me. A lot of people tell me “Andre, you dodged a massive bullet the day you left her.”

So why do I feel compelled to share my story?

Well, because every, and I mean, every sign of narcissism was right there before my eyes and I simply didn’t know what it was. I couldn’t piece things together because I was in love and extremely confused. This was until I found these blogs about narcissism. The interesting part, I think, of this story, is that you get to see the gradual unveiling of the narcissist and how it went from “Perfection” to “Hell.” From little lies to big lies. Some of them, extremely ridiculous.

Moving On

Narcissists lead us to believe we have something we actually do not have, and we hold on to it.  We think we have a relationship with an amazing person, when in reality we are living with an illusion that our relationship is special.  The acting talent these personalities possess is astounding.  They are brilliant con-artists and we must accept that the wonderful person we fell in love with NEVER existed.  They hid behind a mask of smoke and mirrors in order to obtain control of us and manipulate us to meet their never-ending child-like needs.   Once we learn to see the narcissist for the person she really is, we are finally able to free ourselves.

It’s a deep and certain truth about narcissistic personalities that to meet them is to love them, but to know them well is to find them unbearable.  Confidence quickly curdles into arrogance; smarts turns to smugness, charm turns to smarm."
– Jeffrey Kluger

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